Kinky Identity – June 27
Between Play, Power and Perception
When you provoke, withdraw or give in completely?
In this workshop, we will explore our individual kinky identities: whether submissive, dominant, bratty, switchy or still undefined – it’s about rediscovering yourself in the game of power, presence and touch.
This workshop is a first step on the path to your own (kinky) identity. You don’t need to know “what you are”. Instead, you can be curious, experiment, feel, and discover what feels right for you – in your own body, in contact with others, and in conscious play.
Contents of the workshop:
- Body exercises for self-awareness
We start with exercises to arrive in the body, explore tension and relaxation and
connect with our boundaries and needs. - Closeness & distance
What happens when someone wants to submit to your commands? How does it feel to follow instructions yourself? Do you sense any resistance? What role does this play in your kinky dynamic? In guided partner exercises, we explore the interplay of space, tension, and contact. - Voice, silence & body language
How does your presence change when you speak, remain silent, or simply breathe? How does it feel to be loud – or to show presence only with your body? We experiment with vocal and physical forms of expression to explore and consciously adopt our roles. - Playfully discover roles
In a safe, mindful setting, you get the opportunity to try out different positions (Dom, Sub, Brat, Switch …) – without the pressure of having to do something “right”. It’s not about performance, but about authentic feeling and playful curiosity. - Consent & communication
We practice clearly communicating what we want – and what we don’t. The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin helps us distinguish between giving, taking, serving, and receiving. This creates a field where play with power and surrender can take place in a pleasurable, safe, and consensual manner.
For all queer people who are curious about their kinky sides – whether at the beginning of their journey or with first experience
You don’t need a fixed play partner – openness, a yes to self-exploration and willingness for mindful encounters are enough.
Darius Rex
he.him/they.them
I am transmasc, Dominatrix at BDSM Studio Lux, in sexological bodywork
certification and a board member of trans*sexworks.
As a dominatrix and bodyworker, my work consists of exploring and understanding human bodies from a political and embodied perspective. In my work, I constantly challenge established norms around identity, gender, sexuality and social taboos. I see vulnerability and insecurities in play as a resource. Both are a powerful source
that contribute to personal, sensual and pleasurable growth.
As an activist*, community-based work, solidarity politics and networking are the main topics of my political work. My goal is to open up and create more spaces for queer, kinky and sex-positive people. Especially with the rise of right-wing forces in Germany and Europe,
we need safe spaces for our right to self-determination, to live out our sexuality(ies) and to develop our identity(ies).
Who can participate?
All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know.
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