Phantessa

Favorite activities in a session

• Role play
• Toys and tools
• CBT
• Breath control (active)
• Clinic (active/ passive)

No Gos

• Kissing
• Cunnilingus
• Unsafe

Current favorite toy


That depends on the type of session, of course, but in general I can say that I love using different toys. However, the most important element is my body, or rather your body. I love to play with a mix of physical intimacy and distance, as well as painful and gentle touches.

If I had to choose two more specific things for a session, currently it would probably be a gas mask and an e-stim device. Imagine lying in front of me, fixed, wired up and hosed, feeling the electricity and excitement pulsing through you! The best thing about it is that I have my hands free….feel free to read my blog post about breathplay

What kind of BDSM person are you?

From an early age, thoughts formed in my head that I assumed were very different from other people’s sexuality. These fantasies were shameful because they had to do with my submissiveness, inferiority, surrender and pain. Fortunately, I now know that almost everyone has preferences, which unfortunately don’t always meet with acceptance.

It was a huge liberation for me when I started to be open about my preferences. So I got involved in the BDSM scene, initially privately and quickly realized: that’s exactly my thing!

I’m always particularly happy about creative and unconventional role-plays. But of course I also have a lot of fun with “classic” sessions.
My range also includes play styles that are not exclusively about power and submission, for example I love latex sessions where the focus is on enjoying and celebrating the fetish. There are other types of play, such as breath control, where I tend to take on a role in which my partner is clearly dependent on me and I also enjoy this power dynamic, but I am more the person who enables and accompanies this experience as a facilitator.

I still feel very comfortable in the role of a sub, but over the last few years I have increasingly discovered a taste for dominance and, if desired, sadism. Cock and ball torture and nipple torture in particular give me great pleasure. If you prove to be a satisfactory sub, you may also expect a very special reward. As a touchable bizarre lady, I may allow you to please my body after a successful session. Or you can take revenge for the torment I have caused you.

At this point we pay special attention to the clinic: I find the metallic instruments and the exploration of the body very arousing. As a caring but resolute doctor, I can also bring in an assistant doctor for your thorough examination. I have a particular affinity for submissive and humiliating positions and what could be better than the examination chair? 
I’m also passively available as a patient and study subject in the white area.

If you like wrestling, you will also have a lot of fun with me. I have several years of martial arts experience in kickboxing and Krav Maga. At the moment I really enjoy using my guests as human punching bags. I have also created a special for this.

What makes you tick?

I want to create a space where there are no taboos or shame. We talk openly and respectfully about our fantasies and, of course, about our limits. Open communication forms the basis for everything that follows. Every person is individual, and accordingly every session is different: sometimes playful, sometimes strict, sometimes sadistic… I can read people well and respond to their needs. I don’t follow a plan, but rather my intuition.
Initial contact, as well as the preliminary and follow-up discussions, always take place at eye level.

What is dominance/submission for you?

Dominance requires an enormous amount of empathy and responsibility. The right mix of strictness, punishment and care ultimately makes for a good session in which you can let yourself go completely and have full trust in the other person. Sometimes this kind of bond builds up over several sessions, but often it’s right from the start. That’s the great thing about BDSM: you connect with people in a very unique way that is completely different to everyday life.

What do you love about SM?

BDSM is something that relaxes me deeply, despite or precisely because of the focus on my own body, this applies to both dominant and submissive experiences. The pulling myself together, the breathing, the muscle contractions,…. and of course the focus on my partner. Everything else stays outside the door in moments like these. A BDSM session can be therapeutic, creative or even fun!
Of course, it’s also about exploring boundaries and remaining curious. Only by carefully testing boundaries we can learn to define them for ourselves. It’s a game in a way, but at the same time I never act.

How did you start this job / what has changed since then?

When I started practicing BDSM professionally, I was, as in my private life, exclusively passive. My sexuality has of course developed over the years and I have constantly learned new things from many great colleagues. That’s how I came to focus more and more on the dominant side. I can’t say in general what I like better, because it always depends on the chemistry between two or more people in a session. But what I can say for sure is that I really appreciate the fact that I can let off steam and express myself in so many different ways through BDSM.

What initially attracted me to the job was the “breaking of moral taboos”. I now know that neither my work nor my guests should be put in a box or judged in any way. Sex work has broadened my horizons enormously and given me the opportunity to develop and evolve on many different levels.

How can I make an appointment with you? When do you have time?

Write me a short e-mail with your wishes and I’ll reply within one day. You can find my availability under “Calendar”. If you are very limited in time, we can also make an appointment outside my calendar days, in which case I will ask for a deposit. Spontaneous sessions on calendar days are possible, but it’s always worth contacting me at least one day in advance.