Emma Steel

Breath play masks. You are stretched under me, bound tightly, moaning. You have waiting to be allowed to be that close to me and to confess everything I want to hear. And now I am in control of your breathing, too. Pulling the tight mask over your head and slowly closing the air supply – until your ecstasy leads to a magnificent contact high for me… and when we have to land, I’ll still be there.

I whisper terrible things into my toy’s ear, rather than shouting. I implement the fantasies of my counterpart in such a way that they become mine. I’m strict but by all means gentle too. I hurt my victim very much, as a gift, – unless of course it needs punishment … When it comes to interrogation and humiliation, behind my relentless severity is a respect for your shame. Your shame that is my instrument. Beginners and newcomers will be pushed carefully but determinedly to their first limits, while experienced servants and masochists will be forced to surprise themselves. I am a queer dominatrix who values playful and strange scenarios. I enjoy masks – hide yourself yet reveal yourself to me. I like to use mangy mutts and carress sweet cats, I enjoy collaborative training scenarios, punishing nappy-wearing babies and training dolls in suspenders or explaining my world to a gasmask creature from another planet. I am a dominatrix who enjoys bloody rituals just as much as breath techniques that lead to ecstasy. I am a dominatrix who first hypnotizes you and then revels in the reality of the state you are in. I am a dominatrix who knows how to use the factor time.

My humour. My seriousness My passion. Being a queer femme it is a fabulous pleasure for me to use anything about gender, body and identity to make it our BDSM ingredient. If that’s even your thing. I also approach all other topics that you bring with respect and curiosity. It’s very important to me to be able to laugh at myself and have a great time while doing it.

For me dominance is inseparably linked to ethics. Ethics that are not based on rigid rules but on personal integrity, the willingness to learn and to share knowledge. The same goes for submission… Playing with and reversing social power relations is not only great fun, but also an embodied experience. Every community, every group has its own norms and rules and taboos that need questioning. Turning them around in play can be life changing. I know that from my own experience. It is important to me to communicate and act in trauma informed ways.

For me SM is the freedom to live what is already there. To tease out what is necessary. What allows us to feel who we are. Regardless of whether play is about enjoying pain, fetish, role play, approaching difficult topics or simply letting yourself go – BDSM practices have the potential to release tensions that are stuck in the body, including traumatic ones, and to have transformative experiences, again and again. It is important to me to communicate and act in a trauma informed ways.

In Toronto a friend asked me if I could help her out at a session. Of course I could! What a feast of perversions I thought back then. The man wanted to be tied up, to enjoy a golden shower and have his mind played with through public humiliation – I found it all very exciting and he was charmed by my fantasies and my German accent – and of course my appearance… My friend was too, she hadn’t known me in session mode until then. I began to work in her dominatrix studio and since then I have experienced astonishing things, have got to know fascinating people as well as myself, in a wide variety of contexts. Setting up our dream studio with Johanna Weber and Velvet Steel was a climax of this adventure. Since winter 2021, Velvet has taken over the management of LUX and I am happy to have a lot of time for other projects. I still enjoy being at LUX for my sessions in the most beautiful BDSM rooms in Berlin. Beloved queers, hot leather guys, sexy trans people, strong women, handsome butches, gentle lesbians, cool non-binary people, shimmering fairies, sweet femmes, gay boys, willing studs, glitter queens and macho kings and all other colorful creatures – bring it on! After exciting years with predominantly heterosexual men as clients, I now want to have fun more often with people from my scenes. The sessions with you are amazing. Of course, everyone who has been sessioning with me for years is still very very welcome! And yes, heterosexual men I don’t know yet can also get in touch.

Spontaneous sessions only on days when the LUX calendar is marke with my name. Otherwise get in touch at least one week before you’d like to book a session, let me knowxwhat youvhave in mind and I am sure we will find a date!